Religion 4.0 Anyone who has known me for any length of time knows I have a knack for prediction. I am a trend spotter and occasionally even a trend starter – a sort of unintentional social influencer, before the days of Facebook and Instagram. For example: … Continue readingReligion 4.0
It’s time to get some perspective and see clearly why coaching without niche focus is in need of close examining. With an increasing trend for getting a coach / becoming a coach, it’s hard to cut the wheat from the chaff. It’s not surprising as … Continue readingGot Coaching Confusion?
In love, never seek someone to be your ‘better half’ or to ‘complete’ you – be the whole person you already are. YOU are ‘The One’. Only when two whole people come together can lives be truly shared. You both need to have an existing … Continue readingDo Not Search for Love…
Whether we are thinking through a lunch menu or pondering the big questions, if we are honest within ourselves, reflecting on how we feel as we reason in the moment, then we can be confident in our thinking… I think. Here is where head and … Continue readingRationalism and Honesty…
🤔What does an average mind or body look like? Where would we find one? All our notions of ‘normal’ and ideal are illusions – in many cases ones we all collaborate in! Averages are concepts that only exist because of human VARIETY – how ironic! … Continue readingAverage is a Mean Illusion
Every body, Every mind… beautiful. 🙏 Beauty norms are an illusion. Every cell that makes up every body is a unique expression of the universe, creating itself. 🧠 Regardless of height, weight and other measurable things, immeasurable beauty lives in the whole-ness and joy of every … Continue readingBeauty is not a matter of size…
If we want to pursue individual happiness and a fair society, we all need to be allies to those whose voices are diminished beneath the roar of controversy. When I took part in a panel discussion on trans for the Church of England last year, … Continue readingNot Lost in Translation… insight from transgender and non-binary voices
“O wad some Power the giftie gie us To see oursels as ithers see us! ” Robert Burns, To A Louse My favourite line from my homeland’s national bard. It is part of Scottish schooling to learn and recite Burns form a very young age … Continue readingUpon reflection…
Why do we all worry about perfection and presentation? Because we think everyone else is achieving it? Or that despite not being perfect themselves, they will judge imperfection? Well… if they do, let them. If they are seeking perfection in you… it’s because they lack … Continue readingPerfectly Presented or a Work in Progress?
What if your perceived comfort is the very thing that creates your discomfort with your lot in life? There is an uncomfortable truth lurking in the shadows of our comfort zones: they are more self-made prisons than the personal playgrounds or protective bubbles we like … Continue readingDis-Comfort Zones
Last Winter I was invited to speak as part of a panel discussion on the topic of ‘transgender’ hosted by Rev. Michael Hampson of the Church of England, at St. Margaret’s Church in Hornby. My contributions were drawn from my long experience in both burlesque … Continue readingPreaching to the Subverted
Loss occurs in many ways. It hurts, but must we always Iose? In the past year I’ve seen friends and family experience different losses – the loss of loved ones (through death, dementia, divorce and even unresolved dispute), the loss of personal ability and opportunity as … Continue readingLoss(t) in Space
Ambition is rather IFFY…. It is often seen as something to be proud of – or a personal quality that would ensure “success”, whatever that is… but it’s all so hypothetical and future-dwelling. I say it’s time to put ambition on hold and be inspired … Continue readingAspire to be without Ambition
We live in a universe of ultimate diversity and yet are simultaneously bonded together by the one mystery we call ‘Life’. To truly live we must be open to the vast experience available all around us. To do so we are blessed with curiosity. We … Continue readingLife in a Universe of Diversity
IF you are anxious then you are using doubt, a lot. If you are to give any credibility to your doubt and test it’s validity then you need to apply it in a parsimonious way – that is, apply it radically and fairly to everything…including … Continue readingDoubt creates Hope – An anxiety hack.
Coming Out of The Closet Victorian Spiritualism and the Vaudeville Striptease (First Published: Erotic Review. Issue 66, 2004.) A grand parlour room bathed in the dim and eerie glow of phosphorus and magnesium lamps hosts an arrangement of ladies and gentlemen, seated on edge. They eagerly … Continue readingComing Out of The Closet: Victorian Spiritualism and the Vaudeville Striptease
Why burlesque could be good for you. In the face of ever-evolving social and artistic controversy over burlesque as a form of entertainment, I’d like to volunteer my tuppence-worth on an overlooked aspect of participation. As someone who has meaningful experience in both the promotion … Continue readingWhy burlesque could be good for you.
Often when we are anxious, we worry about everything. But…. Everything of course, is no-thing in particular. Furthermore, we fixate on our version of past events or future possible mishaps – and fail to see that the only time that ever exists is the ‘now’. … Continue readingAnxiety – It’s Nothing to Worry About
“Malicious gossip is a bitter pill indeed – but it’s only poisonous if you swallow it.” The irony is that it is not just the target who must avoid swallowing. For gossip to spread and be effective, it needs carriers. Those who spread it – … Continue readingGossip: A Bitter Pill – but only poisonous if you swallow it…
Ouch! When someone is inexplicably mean it is often because they are licking an unconscious wound…. Damage to our self-image can take many forms and wounds can be inflicted in any ways. From deliberate insult to personal failure, typically a bruised ego affects only the owner … Continue readingEgos can hurt…