🤔What does an average mind or body look like? Where would we find one? All our notions of ‘normal’ and ideal are illusions – in many cases ones we all collaborate in! Averages are concepts that only exist because of human VARIETY – how ironic! … Continue readingAverage is a Mean Illusion
If we want to pursue individual happiness and a fair society, we all need to be allies to those whose voices are diminished beneath the roar of controversy. When I took part in a panel discussion on trans for the Church of England last year, … Continue readingNot Lost in Translation… insight from transgender and non-binary voices
Why do we all worry about perfection and presentation? Because we think everyone else is achieving it? Or that despite not being perfect themselves, they will judge imperfection? Well… if they do, let them. If they are seeking perfection in you… it’s because they lack … Continue readingPerfectly Presented or a Work in Progress?
What if your perceived comfort is the very thing that creates your discomfort with your lot in life? There is an uncomfortable truth lurking in the shadows of our comfort zones: they are more self-made prisons than the personal playgrounds or protective bubbles we like … Continue readingDis-Comfort Zones
Loss occurs in many ways. It hurts, but must we always Iose? In the past year I’ve seen friends and family experience different losses – the loss of loved ones (through death, dementia, divorce and even unresolved dispute), the loss of personal ability and opportunity as … Continue readingLoss(t) in Space
Ambition is rather IFFY…. It is often seen as something to be proud of – or a personal quality that would ensure “success”, whatever that is… but it’s all so hypothetical and future-dwelling. I say it’s time to put ambition on hold and be inspired … Continue readingAspire to be without Ambition
IF you are anxious then you are using doubt, a lot. If you are to give any credibility to your doubt and test it’s validity then you need to apply it in a parsimonious way – that is, apply it radically and fairly to everything…including … Continue readingDoubt creates Hope – An anxiety hack.
Often when we are anxious, we worry about everything. But…. Everything of course, is no-thing in particular. Furthermore, we fixate on our version of past events or future possible mishaps – and fail to see that the only time that ever exists is the ‘now’. … Continue readingAnxiety – It’s Nothing to Worry About
“Malicious gossip is a bitter pill indeed – but it’s only poisonous if you swallow it.” The irony is that it is not just the target who must avoid swallowing. For gossip to spread and be effective, it needs carriers. Those who spread it – … Continue readingGossip: A Bitter Pill – but only poisonous if you swallow it…
Ouch! When someone is inexplicably mean it is often because they are licking an unconscious wound…. Damage to our self-image can take many forms and wounds can be inflicted in any ways. From deliberate insult to personal failure, typically a bruised ego affects only the owner … Continue readingEgos can hurt…
Whilst there are many millions of great motivational quotes to be shared, there is an unhealthy trend for disgruntled folks to post wellbeing word memes as a form of thinly veiled bitchy commentary – don’t fall for it! If you feel uncomfortable seeing one, ask … Continue readingIFFY use of Wellbeing quotes…