🤔What does an average mind or body look like? Where would we find one? All our notions of ‘normal’ and ideal are illusions – in many cases ones we all collaborate in! Averages are concepts that only exist because of human VARIETY – how ironic! … Continue readingAverage is a Mean Illusion
“O wad some Power the giftie gie us To see oursels as ithers see us! ” Robert Burns, To A Louse My favourite line from my homeland’s national bard. It is part of Scottish schooling to learn and recite Burns form a very young age … Continue readingUpon reflection…
Why do we all worry about perfection and presentation? Because we think everyone else is achieving it? Or that despite not being perfect themselves, they will judge imperfection? Well… if they do, let them. If they are seeking perfection in you… it’s because they lack … Continue readingPerfectly Presented or a Work in Progress?
What if your perceived comfort is the very thing that creates your discomfort with your lot in life? There is an uncomfortable truth lurking in the shadows of our comfort zones: they are more self-made prisons than the personal playgrounds or protective bubbles we like … Continue readingDis-Comfort Zones
Last Winter I was invited to speak as part of a panel discussion on the topic of ‘transgender’ hosted by Rev. Michael Hampson of the Church of England, at St. Margaret’s Church in Hornby. My contributions were drawn from my long experience in both burlesque … Continue readingPreaching to the Subverted
Loss occurs in many ways. It hurts, but must we always Iose? In the past year I’ve seen friends and family experience different losses – the loss of loved ones (through death, dementia, divorce and even unresolved dispute), the loss of personal ability and opportunity as … Continue readingLoss(t) in Space
Ambition is rather IFFY…. It is often seen as something to be proud of – or a personal quality that would ensure “success”, whatever that is… but it’s all so hypothetical and future-dwelling. I say it’s time to put ambition on hold and be inspired … Continue readingAspire to be without Ambition
We live in a universe of ultimate diversity and yet are simultaneously bonded together by the one mystery we call ‘Life’. To truly live we must be open to the vast experience available all around us. To do so we are blessed with curiosity. We … Continue readingLife in a Universe of Diversity
IF you are anxious then you are using doubt, a lot. If you are to give any credibility to your doubt and test it’s validity then you need to apply it in a parsimonious way – that is, apply it radically and fairly to everything…including … Continue readingDoubt creates Hope – An anxiety hack.
Often when we are anxious, we worry about everything. But…. Everything of course, is no-thing in particular. Furthermore, we fixate on our version of past events or future possible mishaps – and fail to see that the only time that ever exists is the ‘now’. … Continue readingAnxiety – It’s Nothing to Worry About
Ouch! When someone is inexplicably mean it is often because they are licking an unconscious wound…. Damage to our self-image can take many forms and wounds can be inflicted in any ways. From deliberate insult to personal failure, typically a bruised ego affects only the owner … Continue readingEgos can hurt…
Whilst there are many millions of great motivational quotes to be shared, there is an unhealthy trend for disgruntled folks to post wellbeing word memes as a form of thinly veiled bitchy commentary – don’t fall for it! If you feel uncomfortable seeing one, ask … Continue readingIFFY use of Wellbeing quotes…
“What if I make the wrong decision?!” How many of us are held back by this immobilising dark cloud? Everyone knows that ‘fight or flight’ is a fear response to threat, but there is a third… ‘freeze’. Indecision is immobilising because it is a fear … Continue readingIFFY Decision making…
What IF… The nature of the universe is paradoxical? Ironic Fundamentalism is an upbeat approach to life which embraces a universal paradoxical awareness. This way we harness a sense of ‘ironic humour’ about ourselves, the universe and everything – one that leads us to answer … Continue readingIronic Fundamentalism: The hilarious truth about existence